One of the subjects that often comes up in my coaching’s is habits and how to change them. And I think it is something we all have done or tried to do in our lives. It is a subject that interest me a lot and one I love to dive into.
There are a lot of books and articles on changing habits, which shows it is a subject that is intriguing people and that there are approaches on how to change a habit.
And then there is the bad news: if you found this post because you want a solution to change a habit, I do not have a ready blue print solution to offer you.
But I do have some things to consider, if you want work on a habit; be it changing it, getting rid of it, or creating a new habit.
- You must want it for yourself and do it for yourself. Changing a habit because others tell us to do not work.
- You need to know why you want to do it.
- If you want to get gid of a habit, have something to replace it with.
- It will take time. Have some patience with yourself.
- If you want to create a new habit, find a routine to incorporate it into.
- If you want to get rid of or change a habit, identify the routines that are triggering the unwanted habit.
- Find an accountability partner – it can be a friend, a partner, or a coach.
- Small steps work better than big jumps.
- Find ways to celebrate the small wins.
- If your habit is connected to an addiction like smoking or alcohol it is easier with professional help.
But MOST importantly: you need to find out what works for YOU.
It will not help you to replace the candy with a carrot if you do not like carrots. If you are feeling uncomfortable about sharing your struggle, having an accountability partner might not be right for you. Keeping a calendar can help you to become more structured – or make you feel overwhelmed by the entries.
So, if something does not work for you: acknowledge that, find out why it does not work if you can, and then try something else.
Regarding this post on habits and finding the routine that works for you.
Here is a very good article for alternatives to meditation, if you are like me, where the standard approach does not seems to work for you. Personally the suggestion with colouring books, does it for me.
https://ideas.ted.com/cant-seem-to-meditate-7-joyful-activities-for-you-to-try-instead
Regarding this post of incorporating routines and habits and finding the way that works for you, were is a post about how to visualise it 😊 It’s in german, but easy to get idea, just from the picture.
It is to some extent, what I am doing with my journal.
Have you found your way yet or are you gonna try some of my proposals?
https://www.linkedin.com/posts/activity-6892031121496825856-VI7s